happy International Nonbinary Day, y’all!
Ok I adore these kind supportive birds 1000000%
casual reminder that lesbian history is bisexual women’s history, too and we don’t need to be lectured on what femme and butch mean, historically speaking, nor do we need to be lectured on “why you can’t use it,” because yes, we can, we’ve always been there, hahaha, i know, it sucks 2 be you, but it’s true
a fabulous bisexual femme
One more week til my book Super Late Bloomer comes out on May 1st!! (Preorder here: https://www.amazon.com/Super-Late-Bloomer-Early-Transition/dp/1449489621)
There’s a lot more to being a woman than feelin’ pretty, but dang it if lovin’ yourself isn’t important.
“I’d come across some Black people and/or Muslims in my community who had something to say about LGBT people. It seemed like it was almost always negative. The cisgender heterosexual men in my hood bullied gay and trans people. Some Muslims in my masjid talked about how gay people like me would burn in hell. People who looked like me, had some of the same core beliefs I do, and claimed to love me condemned me to a life of violence and emptiness at their hands.
I was always silent at their verbal assault of LGBT folks, and even the physical assaults. I felt that if I spoke up or did anything, I would be exposed for who I desperately didn’t want to be. Hearing them talk about how evil faggots and dykes were made me feel more and more repressed. I was hiding from myself and I got nervous when I heard people talk about LGBT people. I was so scared that they were on to me and that if they found out I was going to be punished. I spent most of my time terrified and uncomfortable with who I was, so I shut people off from any deep connection with me. I still had friends but most were kept at a distance. I was in too much pain.
After I came out last year I thought I had already dealt with all of this emotional trauma. I barely remember this time because I’ve repressed a lot of memories. I was trying to hide that I was in a deep depression and it’s like a fog to me. Seeing Moonlight brought spiritual wealth by allowing me to relive those memories and heal myself. It was like the damn in me broke and all these emotions came flooding out. I thought I was done with feeling bad about being a bisexual nonbinary Black woman. I thought I had decided to live in my power. Still, I was transfixed by the film.”
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SFF Young Adult:
The Second Mango by Shira Glassman (review)
Romance & Erotica:
The Long Way Home by Rachel Spangler (review)
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when asexual woc talk about existing in intersections of racialised misogyny and acephobia, the conversations starts with the fact that our bodies are objectified and dehumanised by white patriarchal culture. lack of sexuality is almost incomprehensible and lack of sexual availability for men – any kind of unavailability regardless of whether they’re ace or not, either bc we’re not interested, not sexually attracted, or in a relationship – it is literally seen as insubordination by certain men who think it’s their god-given right to a woc’s body.
women of colour are hypersexualised and objectified in different ways because of our race, but our universal experience is based on how our culture promotes the idea that our bodies are for male consumption. as an asexual woman of colour, it means that our lack of sexual attraction is seen as something to be conquered, or fixed, or a wrong to be righted. for white men, it’s another space to colonise.
so when the predominantly white ace discourse brings up again and again that “acephobia isn’t real” calls ace people “straight people who don’t have sex”, you’re erasing the way many ace woc are trying to navigate our bodies and sexual agency as asexuals. don’t derail this by saying what we face “isn’t acephobia, just misogyny”, we’re facing intersections of both that have arisen from a culture of compulsory heterosexuality and white supremacy. many asexual women of colour have talked about it and you do not get to silence our voices.
white people on both sides of the Discourse need to acknowledge this, especially in regards to the erasure that goes on in the white ace community and non-ace poc need to stop throwing us under the bus by pretending that we don’t exist and our sexuality is irrelevant.
i need yall to know that myself and all the ace ppl i know irl are woc and this is EXTREMELY real